Is it true that some people use their children as an excuse not to have sex?
Yes, it is and this is especially true of women. Ideally a woman should discuss with her husband why she does not want sex or get help from a professional. Keeping quiet and making the children an excuse is damaging to the relationship and makes the man resentful about the children.
Why should I tell my children anything about sex at all?
Because if they do not hear from you in a loving, caring, balanced way they may hear from someone else in a much less attractive and informative setting. Parents greatly underestimate the misconceptions children have about sex and leaving the subject unmentioned actually does more harm than good. Research has shown that a part of the body that does not have a label (the sex organs, for example) are thought by the child not to exist. Just think how extraordinary it would be if a child grew up having no word for his feet. The sex differences between men and women (and boys and girls) are so compelling that children have an insatiable desire to learn about them and all that results from them. Many of the subjects in the sex area are baffling and amazing to adults; so imagine how much more so they must be to children, with their natural curiosity and delight in the unknown.
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